I feel ashamed in myself for participating in such conversations. Such menial conversations. It’s unkind and it makes me look bad. But worst, it makes me feel horrible.
What is the purpose of gossip? What does it serve? I understand feeling frustrated with a situation or a person and needing to vent about said frustration. But there’s a huge difference between venting for a few minutes and purposefully degrading someone. When you talk badly about others, it makes me think lowly of you, not them. And right now I think lowly of myself.
So I am taking responsibility for my actions. I plan to speak kind, honest words. If something is bothering me and I am frustrated by the actions/words of another person, I will speak confidentially with said person. And I will do so as tactfully and genuinely as I can, without attack. If I need to vent, I’ll give myself a few minutes to vent it out, and then I’ll leave it at that (without bashing anyone, of course). If I find myself surrounded by gossip and/or hurtful words, I’m walking away. There’s no sense in joining their conversation and creating bad karma.
So lets be kind to one another. All of us are neighbors on this beautiful planet and we’re each just trying to live our lives. Respect one another and have compassion. There’s always a deep reason for why people do the things they do; especially the hurtful things. Have patience and try to put yourself in other people’s shoes from time to time to gain a new perspective. I think these things will make for a little more peace. And I don’t know about you, but I am always striving for more peace in my life.